When It All Feels Like Too Much: Tips For The Tired Christian

Hey sis! Do you know what to do when it all feels like too much? What about when your whole world feels like it’s caving in around you and you don’t have the strength to hold on?

Sometimes, I don’t know what to do in these kinds of situations.

Life can be really overwhelming at times. Your bills need paying. Your job is unbearable.

And it all feels like nothing is within your control. You can’t make money appear in your bank account. And you definitely can’t wish your problems away. So where do you turn?

To God, of course. Here are my tips for the tired Christian. Learn how to lean on God when life is overwhelming.


 What to do When it All Feels Like Too Much


What To Do When It All Feels Like Too Much: Tips For The Tired Christian

Today I woke up feeling really defeated. I went to bed as light as a feather. I slept well and had a number of awesomely weird dreams.

But I woke up this morning feeling overwhelmed and under-loved.

Sometimes life feels like a smorgasbord of a disaster waiting to happen (if it hasn’t already).

At times I wonder if I’m strong enough to stand up under the weight of it all.

Have you ever asked yourself this question? Has there ever been a time in your life when you wondered if you could seriously do “this”?

I’m sure you have.

At various points in our walk with Jesus, we come face to face with our human weakness. Even Paul, as much of the warrior that he was, was forced to admit that on his own he just isn’t enough (2 Corinthians 12:9-10)

When he wants to do the right thing his flesh seeks to do the opposite. (Romans 7:19-25)

Each time he has to trust God and surrender if it feels like a physical war between heart and heaven.

I mean, sure, your spiritual side wants to please God and wants to surrender, but your flesh doesn’t. If your flesh were allowed to have its way it would try to solve every single problem you faced “the world’s way”.


Coming Face To Face With My Own Weakness

I am a weak person.

I mess up, say the wrong things, get ahead of myself (a lot) and sometimes hurt the wrong people for what I think are the right reasons.

I’m a whole mess.

Honestly, if it weren’t for the grace continuously poured our for me daily I don’t know where I would be.

Since February of this year, my life has changed a lot. Doors have been opening and seasons have been changing, but one thing’s for sure.

God has been revealing my weaknesses one by one by one:

My inability to trust.

My need to be in control.

My desire to be right.

God has been peeling back the layers and making it abundantly clear that if I’m to fully step into this new season of my life I have to let these idols go. I have to learn how to completely trust Him. I need to desire righteousness not “rightness”.

I must learn to let go.

And, it is hard.

It’s hard to admit my shortcomings; my flaws; my weaknesses.

I mean, we all have them but it’s easier to swallow the people of “humanity” when your flaws aren’t being put on “show”for all the world to see, especially the ones closest to you.


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I Know I’m Not Strong Enough Alone

There’s a song by Matthew West that I sang a lot when I was waiting to hear if I had gotten accepted into the JET Programme. It’s called Strong Enough.

In the song, Matthew admits that he knows he is not strong enough to be everything he’s supposed to be. He also gives up and asks God to take over. You can listen to the full song below.


In their song “Sleep In The Storm“, the lead singer tells us that “I’m finished fighting and trying to hold back the floods“. At first, I thought it meant that he would just up.

The more I listen to both of these songs, the more I realize that these men aren’t just giving up and walking away from their problems.


As I listen to the words, I understand that sometimes, to allow God’s work in our lives, we must step back. We must give up. We have to admit that we aren’t strong enough.

In this way, God’s strength can be made perfect in our weakness as the bible says in 2 Corinthians 12:8-10. The bible wasn’t mistaken when it says that in our weakness, God is most definitely strongest.


Moving Forward When Overwhelmed

It’s hard for me to move forward when I’m feeling overwhelmed. I often feel stuck, exposed and vulnerable, and I hate that.

It leads me to lash out in the wrong way in an attempt to protect the parts of me that are exposed. I’ve also come to realize that I eat my emotions, and that’s something I have to try really hard to not do.

Moving forward when you’re feeling overwhelmed is hard.

But God.

This morning I went to the dry cleaners to drop off a dress that needed cleaning. After thinking about it for a bit, I realized something.

I had this dirty dress.

Sure I could have tried to clean it on my own regardless of how big it was. I could have bought all the cleaning products, took the time and tried to get the stains and makeup out.

But it would have been a huge task. It would probably have taken me hours upon hours of work to get it all done. I could have messed it all up.

Since I wasn’t strong enough to do this job on my own it made sense to leave it to the professionals. And that’s how we need to think about our life.

When things get overwhelming, it isn’t our job to fix things on our own. What we need to do is to leave it to the professional.

We need to leave it to God.


God Is All We Need

If I were to sit down and count all the times I tried to help God do His job, I’d be out of fingers and toes. And each time I tried to help Him or tried to nudge things along, my situation only got worse.


Because God is all we need.

God doesn’t need our help to get things done. He didn’t need our help to create the heavens. He didn’t need our help in getting Jesus off that cross. And He surely doesn’t need our help to fix the things in our lives that have gone awry.

This is a lesson I’m still learning.

God is all-powerful, all-knowing, ever-present and all-loving. There is nothing He can’t do for us if we ask. Just because we ask, doesn’t mean that it’s going to happen this very minute or even in the way we’d like it to.

A lot of the times, God needs to give us time to be moulded and shaped into a person who can handle the blessing coming our way.

God has to teach us the lessons we need to learn before we get our miracle.

God has to change our heart and our habits.


Why Do You Sometimes Have to Walk Through Fire?

Sometimes, God has to give us time to walk in the fire and wade in the storm so that when we get to the other side, we will be better than we were before.

I’m gonna be honest. I’ve been having writer’s block for a few months now. Every time I went to write a podcast episode or anything for that matter, nothing came. 

I was completely uninspired.

Throughout this process of waiting, God has laid it on my heart to write down the process, so here I am doing just that.

If it wasn’t for the fire, the storms, the insanity that is my life right now, this pen wouldn’t have touched this paper.

I don’t know who this message is for but I’m writing it because I believe there’s someone out there who will need to read these words one day. 

It might even be me.

When life feels overwhelming and everything feels like it’s just too much, don’t try to be strong on your own. Don’t try to see things through your own eyes.

Go to God.

Admit your weakness.

And let His strength take over.


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  1. Candi
    October 16, 2021 / 6:45 PM

    I don’t know you and frankly I found your writings completely by accident. You wrote clearly in one of your submissions, “I don’t know who this message is for but I am writing it because I believe there is someone out there who will need to read these words someday.” Well, yep! That would be me. I can’t even begin to tell you all that I’ve been through and I’m at the end of my rope. I needed just to hear that someone can relate to being overwhelmed in every direction. I am literally in my car parked at some random park out of town just to get away from my situation. I also just found out that I have Covid. Which is nothing compared to the other challenges in my life right now. There are so many layers of “wrong” in my life right now. My faith is being tested but what’s worse is I don’t even know how to just sit still, rest in my faith and be at peace.
    Not your problem but it is a great comfort to hear your words and share that you, too, have been through a lot of pain, heartache and hardship. Thank you for that sister. I pray for your continued ministry which for me has been invaluable!
    Thank you. Thank you.

    • SheIsAMess
      October 17, 2021 / 6:04 PM

      Wow! This is such a blessing to hear. I actually went back and reread the post, and it was such a timely reminder for me even now. I pray God blesses you and leads you.

    • Teairra
      November 17, 2021 / 4:44 AM

      Hi, I just wanted to take a moment to relate, because I too know hardship! Being a single mother is a hardship on its on and after two kids and 13 years, I can finally say things are starting to get a little easier. I just pray that God begins to heal your wounds and begin to open doors than no man can. I pray that you find the peace that you seek.

      This post has been an amazing read. Thank you for being obedient to Gods instruction to write even when you felt you had nothing to say!


      • SheIsAMess
        December 1, 2021 / 7:11 PM

        Aww, thank you so much! He’s already done so much and I look forward to what He has in store next. God bless you.

        • Monica
          January 6, 2022 / 1:24 AM

          Hi Sis!

          Thanks for writing this. Honestly, I am feeling so overwhelmed with all that is going on in my life. Nothing bad happened, but it just feels like there are a lot in my plate at this moment. Thanks for sharing the message to leave it to God and be at peace. It means a lot to me. I hope you and everyone reading this find peace that you all needed. God bless you and peace out.

  2. Jane
    December 29, 2021 / 11:36 PM

    I’m. Not strong enough I’m needing to learn to trust God through Jesus I need to let go and let God I must learn this. By learning to go to Him in prayer Thank God in Jesus name for your blog

  3. January 18, 2022 / 2:31 PM

    This was definitely for me I also ran across your writings by accident or so I thought it was an accident. You’re writings are really helping me in more ways than I can explain. Thank you for sharing and writing. It will definitely change the lives of others by your outpouring of the holy Spirit.

  4. Stephanie
    February 1, 2022 / 10:38 PM

    This was something that I need to read because right now I’m going threw it . Feels like everything is going right now in my life this was a inspiration to me

  5. Janet
    February 16, 2022 / 4:19 PM

    Its very hard to find the balance, cause sometimes i don’t know if im going to wait do nothing , just wait his signal or if im going to ask, sometimes i don’t know what to do , and so easy to blame myself for stuck in some situation, i can’t relax so well in my daily life. I appreciate God’s love so much, but i still stuck there . Your words remind me I should wait and make my heart in peace, not worry like a monkey, hahah, I will try be patient, wait our Almighty God to reveal on us.

  6. Alyssa
    May 14, 2022 / 1:27 AM

    Thank you so much for this, found it looking for an article to bring encouragement to a weary heart, God is good! 💛🥺🥰

  7. Caroline
    March 4, 2023 / 5:14 PM

    I’m here. I’m out of the storm thank you God and I think that’s what is defeating, I am tidying up the remaining bad habits, and satan must be fighting to keep me down considering what God is bringing me out of. I’m fighting to have God, and he knows. So God I’m starting to see what you mean, you stepping in in my weakness. I’m starting to see a little more how this works. So Hod though I lay here defeated in the bed with my whole family waiting on me to come cook and clean and mediate the children fighting and grocery shop and be emotional support and yeah I’m a mom and wife. I’m just going to do what you’ve shown me all these days before. I’m going to get up in my defeated I don’t want to do this state… and I’m going to trust… that you’re with me. I’m going to trust that your strength will go with my faith and meet me downstairs. And we are going to have an amazing day together. Thank you for this article.

  8. sharon jones
    May 1, 2023 / 1:06 AM

    just want to send love and blessings to all who read here – we are not alone x

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