Dear Pastor’s Wife, Your Tears Are Prayers Too!

Dear friend, if you’re reading this, it’s likely because your heart is heavy, you’ve been hurt in ministry, and your soul is burdened.

You’re not alone. Your tears are prayers too!

As a fellow pastor’s wife who has journeyed through valleys of tears, I want you to know that your tears are precious and powerful. They are prayers in their own right, spoken in a language only God fully understands.

Today, we’ll look into the depths of our emotions, and explore the beauty of tears in the Bible. We’ll also discover how even in the darkest moments, our cries for help can revive our hearts and draw us closer to our Heavenly Father.

Tears in the Bible: 

In the Psalms, we find King David, a man after God’s own heart, pouring out his soul in heartfelt cries. In Psalm 56:8, he writes, “You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.”

This verse beautifully reminds us that God not only sees our tears but treasures them. Our tears are not signs of weakness but rather an expression of our profound need for Him. Your tears are prayers too.

Another powerful verse is Psalm 58:6, which speaks of the wicked as those who “spit out venom like snakes; they are like deaf cobras that stop up their ears.”

In contrast, we, as pastor’s wives, can choose to release our pain and frustration to God through our tears, avoiding the hard-heartedness that comes from holding it all in.

When God Feels Distant:

There are moments in life when we cry out to God, and it seems as if He’s far away. We wonder why He doesn’t respond, why His silence feels like abandonment.

This is a place of deep emotional pain that many of us have experienced.

Your tears are prayers too.

In 2 Kings 20:5, when King Hezekiah was gravely ill, he cried out to God in tears, and God responded, granting him more years of life. Yet, there are times when God’s answer is not immediate or apparent.

During these moments when God seems distant, we can again find solace in the Psalms. Psalm 57:1 says, “Have mercy on me, O God, have mercy! I look to you for protection. I will hide beneath the shadow of your wings until the danger passes by.”

It’s a reminder that even in the midst of our tears and God’s apparent silence, we can take refuge in His loving presence.

When God Seems Cruel: 

There are seasons when suffering feels unending, and we may even question God’s character. We wonder why a loving God would allow such pain.

It’s crucial to remember that our perspective is limited, but His understanding is infinite. In times of hardship, we must hold onto our faith, even when God seems cruel from our vantage point.

Your tears are prayers too!

In the darkest moments, we can cry for help, just as David did in Psalm 57:2: “I cry out to God Most High, to God who will fulfill his purpose for me.”

Here, David acknowledges that even in his distress, he trusts in God’s greater purpose. We, too, can find hope in knowing that God is working in the midst of our pain, even when we can’t see it.

How to Deal with Emotional Pain: 

Dealing with emotional pain can be a long and difficult journey, but it’s a journey worth taking. Surround yourself with a supportive community of friends and fellow pastor’s wives who can empathize with your struggles.

Seek professional counseling or therapy if needed, and don’t hesitate to lean on your faith as a source of strength.

Remember that tears are prayers too, and every tear you shed is a testament to your heart’s connection with God. He collects your tears, knows your deepest pains, and walks with you through every trial.

Even in the midst of your tears, He is near, holding you close. So, dear pastor’s wife, as you navigate the complexities of ministry life and face moments of heartache, know that your tears are not in vain.

They are a precious, powerful expression of your dependence on God, and through them, you can find comfort, healing, and renewed strength for the journey ahead.

All my love,

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