How to Disciple Women in Your Church

Do you know how to disciple someone? Neither did I.

I still remember the first time a younger woman in our church asked me to mentor her. I smiled and nodded, but inside, I panicked.

Me? A mentor? What if I don’t have all the answers? What if I say the wrong thing?

I had always admired the idea of women mentoring women, but I never imagined myself in that role.

I thought discipleship was for the “seasoned” ones—the women who seemed to have life and faith all figured out. But as I prayed about it, God reminded me of the women mentors in the Bible—ordinary women who simply loved, encouraged, and walked alongside others in faith.

If you’ve ever wondered how to disciple someone or felt unsure about mentoring younger women in your church, you’re not alone.

The truth is, discipleship is about being willing to invest in someone’s spiritual growth. In this post, we’ll explore what it looks like to disciple women effectively, why mentoring women is so important, and practical ways to start discipling today.

Are you ready? Let’s dive in.

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What Is Discipleship?

When I first heard the word discipleship, I assumed it was something complicated—maybe a structured Bible study or a formal mentorship program. But as I looked deeper, I realised that discipleship is simply walking alongside someone in their faith journey while helping them grow closer to Christ.

At its core, discipleship is about relationship. It’s not just about teaching doctrine or offering advice—it’s about doing life together, just as Jesus did with His disciples.

He didn’t just preach to them; He ate with them, traveled with them, and showed them what it meant to love and serve others.

For us as women in ministry, discipleship often looks like women mentoring women in a personal, intentional way.

It’s about investing in someone’s spiritual life, encouraging them through struggles, and pointing them back to God’s truth. It’s not about having a title or a perfect plan—it’s about being available and willing to pour into someone else, just as others have poured into us.

So whether you’re mentoring younger women or guiding someone through a tough season, discipleship isn’t about perfection—it’s about presence.

And the good news? You don’t have to do it alone.

How to Disciple Someone at Church

When I first started mentoring women in ministry, I assumed discipleship had to look a certain way—really structured, fancy Bible studies, prayer meetings, or one-on-one counseling. While those are powerful, I soon realised that discipleship can happen in everyday moments, in creative ways that meet women where they are.

If you’ve been wondering how to disciple someone beyond the usual methods, here are ten unique ways to invest in women’s spiritual growth at church.

Host a “Walk & Talk” Discipleship Group:

Not every woman feels comfortable sitting in a circle and sharing deeply. Try organising a weekly “Walk & Talk” where women can pair up and discuss faith while walking around the church grounds or a local park.

This relaxed setting encourages natural conversations and deeper connections.

Start a One-Year Mentorship Match-Up:

Many times women mentoring women happens organically, but some women may need help finding a mentor.

Organise a one-year mentorship match-up where younger women are paired with older women for regular check-ins, prayer, and encouragement. Encourage casual coffee dates or phone calls to keep it low-pressure.

Use Voice Notes for Encouragement & Prayer:

Sometimes, life gets too busy for in-person meetups, but a simple voice note can be powerful. Send a quick prayer or word of encouragement via WhatsApp or another messaging app.

It’s a small gesture, but it helps women feel seen and spiritually supported.

Teach Women How to Pray Over Their Homes:

One of the most practical ways to disciple women is to teach them how to invite God into their daily spaces.

Host a workshop on praying over your home. Dedicate each room to God and create a peaceful, prayer-filled atmosphere.

Create a Scripture Text Chain:

Start a small discipleship group via text message, where you share a short devotional or verse each morning.

Encourage group members to reply with their reflections so you can foster a women mentorship community without needing to meet in person.

Host “Dinner Discipleship” Nights:

Instead of a formal Bible study, gather women for a simple meal and organic faith conversations.

Choose a guiding question or topic for the night, like “How has God challenged your faith this month?” This builds community while allowing discipleship to happen naturally.

Encourage “Discipleship in the Car”:

Many women have busy schedules, but car rides can be a great time for mentorship.

Offer to carpool with a younger woman from church, using the time to check in spiritually and pray over her week. It’s discipleship that fits into everyday life.

Start a “Faith & Finances” Mentoring Group:

Many Christian women struggle with financial stewardship but don’t know where to turn for guidance.

A female mentorship group that teaches biblical financial wisdom—budgeting, tithing, and generosity—can help women grow in both faith and practical life skills.

Create a Monthly “Prayer Partner Swap”:

Encourage women to switch prayer partners each month where you pair up with someone new to pray over each other’s needs.

This keeps discipleship fresh, builds diverse relationships, and ensures no woman goes unnoticed in the church community.

Mentor Through Service Projects:

Some women grow best through action. Organise local outreach projects—feeding the homeless, visiting nursing homes, or writing letters to missionaries.

Serving side by side allows discipleship to happen through shared experiences and heartfelt conversations.

What are Five Characteristics of a Disciple?

Looking back, I probably should have included this section earlier. But maybe you’ve made it this far, still wondering if you have what it takes to disciple someone. Maybe you feel like your past disqualifies you, or that you’re not spiritually mature enough to be a mentor.

If that’s you, let this be a final reminder: discipleship isn’t about perfection—it’s about progress. God isn’t looking for flawless women. He’s looking for faithful ones.

So, what does it really mean to be a disciple? Here are five key characteristics.

A Heart Willing to Learn:

Disciples never stop growing. Whether you’re mentoring younger women or just starting out in your faith, being teachable is crucial.

True disciples remain open to correction, seek wisdom from Scripture, and allow God to shape them daily. You don’t need to have all the answers—just a heart that’s willing to learn alongside those you disciple.

Obedience to God’s Word:

It’s easy to talk about faith, but true disciples live it out. Jesus said, “If you love me, keep my commands” (John 14:15).

This doesn’t mean perfection, but it does mean a desire to obey God even when it’s hard. A disciple is someone who doesn’t just read the Word—they apply it, making them an example for women in their church.

A Servant’s Heart:

Discipleship isn’t about status; it’s about service. Jesus Himself washed His disciples’ feet, showing us that leadership in the Kingdom of God starts with humility.

Whether you’re discipling one person or leading a female mentoring program, your greatest impact will come through acts of love and service.

Faithfulness in the Small Things:

We often think of discipleship as something big—hosting Bible studies, leading ministries, or mentoring women in formal ways.

But discipleship starts in the small, unseen moments: praying for someone, sending an encouraging message, or simply showing up when someone needs you. A true disciple is faithful in the little things, knowing God can use them to make a big impact.

A Willingness to Share Their Story:

Many women hold back from discipling others because they feel their past disqualifies them. But the truth is, your testimony is one of your greatest discipleship tools.

Women need to hear how you’ve overcome challenges, how God has worked in your life, and how you’re still growing. Whether you’re a seasoned women mentor or just getting your footing, don’t be afraid to share your story—it could be exactly what another woman needs to hear.

Final Thoughts

Discipling women in your church isn’t about having all the answers, the perfect words, or years of experience in ministry. It’s about being faithful, showing up, and walking alongside someone in their faith journey.

If you’ve been waiting for a sign to start discipling, this is it. There are women in your church—right now—praying for guidance, longing for female mentorship, and searching for a godly woman to help them grow.

You don’t have to be perfect; you just have to be willing.

So, take that first step. Invite a younger woman for coffee. Start a small discipleship group. Share your story.

However God leads, trust that your obedience will have a ripple effect. The Kingdom of God grows one relationship at a time, and today, you get to be a part of that.

Discipleship isn’t just for someone more qualified—it’s for you. So go, step out in faith, and start discipling.

All my love,

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